Oh what a difference 10 days can make!
My Mom was released from the hospital yesterday and doing better from the way her voice sounds. This has really been such a long haul for her. She has 3 more weeks of antibiotics ahead of her (which make her sick) making the treatment well past 2 months of illness. But she is on the road to recovery.
All that is planned for this week is a 3 day camping trip. The best part is that it doesn't involve anything at MY house!!! :D I think that was what was stressing me out the most.
The yard is "in" accept for the grass as it is waaaaay to dry to try to grow grass. The kids and I are going to go on out and clean the camper and water water water plants this AM. It is beautiful out today. There is a seemingly happy breeze that blew away all the humidity from yesterday. The temp is down with a forcasted high of 75. I'm airing the house out as we speek and it already smells better!
Also need to check on the baby birds that took up residence in my hanging plant. The hanging plant is all but dead now but watching the birds has been fun!
My spirit just feels better. I'm looking forward to a fun trip with my family so we can rest a bit before the next adventure!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Monday, July 2, 2007
Seasons of motherhood
I found out today that my Mom has made some decisions with her health that I do not agree with. It has prolonged her illness and frankly makes me mad! This whole or
deal has made me think about the seasons of motherhood. Many times today I compared her to my kids, thinking she was acting very stubborn and rather selfish about things. Selfish? Isn't it her body? Isn't she entilted as an adult to decide what she wants to do with her health? Initially you would say yes, and ultimately that is probably right. But do things change a bit when you become a Mother. Do you have an added responsibility to take better care of yourself, even when your kids are grown and out of the house?
I'm still mulling that over in my head. I wonder too if this has hit me the way it has because I am in the throes of motherhood so to speak.
I had a rather tearful conversation with my weak and shivering Mother on the phone where I asked her to please go to the ER. She did shortly after that. Many times in the hours previous we children had asked her to do something and it wasn't until after that call that she did. I do not know for sure if that is what did it. But maybe. Maybe my being upset got her attention. I'm not normally like that. Maybe I reminded her in that way the reliance we have on our mothers, even when we don't want to. And the importance they have in our lives. Even when we don't get a long well. I happen to have a good relationship with my Mom. I know lots who don't. But even when you don't, there is a connection like none other. And because of it, I think as a mom, you agree to take the best care of yourself you can.
Yup, I do.
deal has made me think about the seasons of motherhood. Many times today I compared her to my kids, thinking she was acting very stubborn and rather selfish about things. Selfish? Isn't it her body? Isn't she entilted as an adult to decide what she wants to do with her health? Initially you would say yes, and ultimately that is probably right. But do things change a bit when you become a Mother. Do you have an added responsibility to take better care of yourself, even when your kids are grown and out of the house?
I'm still mulling that over in my head. I wonder too if this has hit me the way it has because I am in the throes of motherhood so to speak.
I had a rather tearful conversation with my weak and shivering Mother on the phone where I asked her to please go to the ER. She did shortly after that. Many times in the hours previous we children had asked her to do something and it wasn't until after that call that she did. I do not know for sure if that is what did it. But maybe. Maybe my being upset got her attention. I'm not normally like that. Maybe I reminded her in that way the reliance we have on our mothers, even when we don't want to. And the importance they have in our lives. Even when we don't get a long well. I happen to have a good relationship with my Mom. I know lots who don't. But even when you don't, there is a connection like none other. And because of it, I think as a mom, you agree to take the best care of yourself you can.
Yup, I do.
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
My poor blog!! How dusty this corner is :(
Well...quick updates. We have officially moved. Our other house has sold, and we have 1 month and counting to get the rest of it cleared out (the garage!). What a nutty time.
Many have asked me if the new house is home yet. I've decided at least for me that it truely is not a house that gives me any real sense of home. Which I'm sure is a product of my experience. The house I grew up in was not the house my parents lived in when I was in college and would come "home". In my married life we have moved often. Home for me is, as clique as it sounds, where my heart is. As long as I have my hubby and kids....its home. So, I guess yes could be a much simpler answer! :)
So....close your eyes....turn off the world for a minute.....think about the word "home" does a certain house come into your mind? Or is it more feelings or people? I bet the answer is as unique is you are. :)
Well...quick updates. We have officially moved. Our other house has sold, and we have 1 month and counting to get the rest of it cleared out (the garage!). What a nutty time.
Many have asked me if the new house is home yet. I've decided at least for me that it truely is not a house that gives me any real sense of home. Which I'm sure is a product of my experience. The house I grew up in was not the house my parents lived in when I was in college and would come "home". In my married life we have moved often. Home for me is, as clique as it sounds, where my heart is. As long as I have my hubby and kids....its home. So, I guess yes could be a much simpler answer! :)
So....close your eyes....turn off the world for a minute.....think about the word "home" does a certain house come into your mind? Or is it more feelings or people? I bet the answer is as unique is you are. :)
Saturday, March 10, 2007
Sweet Sounds
My baby laughed today!! She has the sweetest chuckle and gurly (is that a word?) and wonderful. It is hard to think anything is bad in the world when you hear it.
And then you find out your husband doesn't know where your 8 year old is either. The girls and I had come home from an outing and J was no where in sight. I assumed he was with hubby...who assumed he was outside playing. An hour later we talked to discover he was not outside where we could see him. Thankfully hubby tracked him down. He was at a neighborhood kids house and he is OK. But is a disconcerting feeling not knowing where he was. Worrisome. I didn't have any premonitions that anything was really wrong. I hope that I would if there was something really amiss. I'm just the kind of person who needs to know where her 4 kids are at all times. Kindergarten was a big adjustment for me because I didn't know exactly what my kid did for hours at a time. Its just the way I am.
Hubby was raised a bit differently. He remembers running all over the neighborhood as a kid and his Mother not knowing where he was exactly. I had to tell my Mother where I was going. He agrees with me now saying the now almost classic phrase "times are different now" But are they? Because he agreed with me, I didn't say anything at the time. I have been thinking about it though. I think the biggest thing that is different is that people talk about things more then they used to. I think kids where stolen 20-30 years ago. They were sexually abused. They saw things they shouldn't have. They drank and did drugs. Had sex earlier then they maybe should have. Those things happend then. The big difference now is we talk about it more. Bringing an awareness that people perhaps just didnt think about when they were raising their kids.
The kid whose house J ran off to is 5 years older then he is. I gotta ask why this kid who is in Jr. High wants to play with my second grader. Maybe its innocent. Maybe he just really enjoys J's wild ideas and exuberant attitude. This kid has hung around in my yard quite a bit. I'm not going to go into details here in this public forum....but basically I'm OK with him playing outside where I can see them. My kids are not going to his house. My hubby has argued that he is a nice kid....and I hope he is. The thing is, bad guys lots of times ARE nice. Maybe I've watched to much Oprah and read to much on the internet. Sometimes you just gotta go with your gut. The age difference is to big. I don't know the family. It just isn't going to happen. And J's grounded for another week.
With all this, I just remind myself, My baby laughed today!
And then you find out your husband doesn't know where your 8 year old is either. The girls and I had come home from an outing and J was no where in sight. I assumed he was with hubby...who assumed he was outside playing. An hour later we talked to discover he was not outside where we could see him. Thankfully hubby tracked him down. He was at a neighborhood kids house and he is OK. But is a disconcerting feeling not knowing where he was. Worrisome. I didn't have any premonitions that anything was really wrong. I hope that I would if there was something really amiss. I'm just the kind of person who needs to know where her 4 kids are at all times. Kindergarten was a big adjustment for me because I didn't know exactly what my kid did for hours at a time. Its just the way I am.
Hubby was raised a bit differently. He remembers running all over the neighborhood as a kid and his Mother not knowing where he was exactly. I had to tell my Mother where I was going. He agrees with me now saying the now almost classic phrase "times are different now" But are they? Because he agreed with me, I didn't say anything at the time. I have been thinking about it though. I think the biggest thing that is different is that people talk about things more then they used to. I think kids where stolen 20-30 years ago. They were sexually abused. They saw things they shouldn't have. They drank and did drugs. Had sex earlier then they maybe should have. Those things happend then. The big difference now is we talk about it more. Bringing an awareness that people perhaps just didnt think about when they were raising their kids.
The kid whose house J ran off to is 5 years older then he is. I gotta ask why this kid who is in Jr. High wants to play with my second grader. Maybe its innocent. Maybe he just really enjoys J's wild ideas and exuberant attitude. This kid has hung around in my yard quite a bit. I'm not going to go into details here in this public forum....but basically I'm OK with him playing outside where I can see them. My kids are not going to his house. My hubby has argued that he is a nice kid....and I hope he is. The thing is, bad guys lots of times ARE nice. Maybe I've watched to much Oprah and read to much on the internet. Sometimes you just gotta go with your gut. The age difference is to big. I don't know the family. It just isn't going to happen. And J's grounded for another week.
With all this, I just remind myself, My baby laughed today!
Sunday, February 25, 2007
The sweetest thing
My 82 day old baby girl molded to my body in the way we've learned to fit each other. I love that she prefers me to all others on the planet. I haven't had a chance to test that theory but I do believe it to be true. I know we have not been together as long as she was with (fill in the name/lable of your choice). But she knows me. I have earned her trust. I treasure that. And the special way she fits with me. She is one of the sweetest things ever.
Monday, February 19, 2007
MOVING!
Its official. We are indeed buying my IL's house....3 blocks away. Its a good thing. Or it will be when we are all moved! Meanwhile I am thinking about how I'm going to get done all I need to while my 2 month old and 3 year old HELP...LOL!!!
Moving. This will be our 8th move and 4th house in 13 1/2 years. A hobby? You might say that LOL. We are certainly pretty good at it. I'm having the second thoughts this week as is my hubby. We aren't suppose to have them at the same time but alas, even with practice you can't always get everything right! There are many great things about our current house. We've put a ton of time and effort not to mention money into this place. It is far from perfect. There are still things that bug us that we can't do much about. Like the teeny tiny bathrooms that make having a stool in there for the kids nearly impossible. But this house is a step up for us....and eventually will have more space for living and entertaining which we really like to do. It is a good investment in a town that is growing. Blah blah blah
I've decided it is what it is because of where I came from. My mother lived in her MIL house, my sister lives in her MIL house and my SIL lived in her MIL house. Apparently this is what we do! ;)
In other news....I am happy to find out my DD G's bmom found away to at least get pictures and letters from us. Long story I'm not going to get into here. She is such a remarkable woman, I am very happy that in the future G may have a chance to know her!
Moving. This will be our 8th move and 4th house in 13 1/2 years. A hobby? You might say that LOL. We are certainly pretty good at it. I'm having the second thoughts this week as is my hubby. We aren't suppose to have them at the same time but alas, even with practice you can't always get everything right! There are many great things about our current house. We've put a ton of time and effort not to mention money into this place. It is far from perfect. There are still things that bug us that we can't do much about. Like the teeny tiny bathrooms that make having a stool in there for the kids nearly impossible. But this house is a step up for us....and eventually will have more space for living and entertaining which we really like to do. It is a good investment in a town that is growing. Blah blah blah
I've decided it is what it is because of where I came from. My mother lived in her MIL house, my sister lives in her MIL house and my SIL lived in her MIL house. Apparently this is what we do! ;)
In other news....I am happy to find out my DD G's bmom found away to at least get pictures and letters from us. Long story I'm not going to get into here. She is such a remarkable woman, I am very happy that in the future G may have a chance to know her!
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Momma's Babies
Thanks guys for the welcome to the world of blogging!!!
A thread on a forum made me think on this some more today. I believe my little G is well on her way to being just that. In most ways I don't mind one bit! She is very likely my last baby and keeping her that way as long as possible is very appealing to say the least :). I can't believe how much I love that little 9 pound bundle of squirm
I have another Momma's baby. My 8 year old. It was more difficult with him for me. I wanted to share him with people to enough of a degree that they would get to know him and love him and he would have NOTHING to do with anyone but me. It made me sad sometimes. And exhausted a lot of the time. It is hard to be someones everything! With G I know that this period of major physical attachment wont last forever....and I think I won't take comments like, "she sure is spoiled" (already had that one once...she is 2mo old for cripes sakes!!!!) so personally. I have more confidence in my own mothering and know that a little one demanding physical contact from his momma is not spoiling! Its bonding! And some need more of that type of contact then others.
Market analysis on the house went well today....should see the results by the end of the week...and we'll know if we can go ahead or not....so we just have to decide IF we are going to do it! The house would be a nice one for us to grow into. At first we would keep the renter downstairs. One of the things I'm looking forward to is the fact that all 3 girls will share one big room. It is big....2 large closets....and one room to hold everything that is girl! Right now I spend so much time going from room to room (they are in 3 separate right now) getting them dressed and doing hair (our bathroom is waaaaay to small to house all the hair products and dodads we have) It will be WONDERFUL to have it all in one space. Plus I think there are some really great things to be learned sharing a room. I wish J could have the experience too! Time will tell and soon if this is the right thing for us or not.
A thread on a forum made me think on this some more today. I believe my little G is well on her way to being just that. In most ways I don't mind one bit! She is very likely my last baby and keeping her that way as long as possible is very appealing to say the least :). I can't believe how much I love that little 9 pound bundle of squirm
I have another Momma's baby. My 8 year old. It was more difficult with him for me. I wanted to share him with people to enough of a degree that they would get to know him and love him and he would have NOTHING to do with anyone but me. It made me sad sometimes. And exhausted a lot of the time. It is hard to be someones everything! With G I know that this period of major physical attachment wont last forever....and I think I won't take comments like, "she sure is spoiled" (already had that one once...she is 2mo old for cripes sakes!!!!) so personally. I have more confidence in my own mothering and know that a little one demanding physical contact from his momma is not spoiling! Its bonding! And some need more of that type of contact then others.
Market analysis on the house went well today....should see the results by the end of the week...and we'll know if we can go ahead or not....so we just have to decide IF we are going to do it! The house would be a nice one for us to grow into. At first we would keep the renter downstairs. One of the things I'm looking forward to is the fact that all 3 girls will share one big room. It is big....2 large closets....and one room to hold everything that is girl! Right now I spend so much time going from room to room (they are in 3 separate right now) getting them dressed and doing hair (our bathroom is waaaaay to small to house all the hair products and dodads we have) It will be WONDERFUL to have it all in one space. Plus I think there are some really great things to be learned sharing a room. I wish J could have the experience too! Time will tell and soon if this is the right thing for us or not.
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